By Vanessa Sanders
One of the most common questions family law and matrimonial clients ask is whether they will have to go to court, and what happens if they do.
Whether a case proceeds to court often depends on whether the parties can reach an agreement through negotiations before judicial intervention becomes necessary. In some situations, such as emergencies involving safety or urgent financial concerns, court involvement may be required immediately. However, many family law matters are resolved without the parties ever needing to appear before a judge.
If Court Becomes Necessary
When court intervention is required, the process generally follows these stages:
A Judge Is Assigned
The First Appearance
At the initial court appearance, the judge will typically:
Advise both parties of their right to legal counsel. If one party is unrepresented and requests time to retain counsel, the court will often adjourn the matter.
- Identify the issues that need to be resolved
- Establish deadlines for exchanging documents
- Schedule future conferences or hearings
- Some judges may also schedule tentative trial dates early due to court calendar limitations.
Where both parties are represented, the judge will often speak with the attorneys only, sometimes in the judge’s chambers. The parties are unlikely to speak with the judge directly and may never even see the judge. This is done to preserve the court’s ability to remain fair and impartial, and clients should rest assured that their attorneys are advocating on their behalf.
Substantive rulings are uncommon at initial appearances unless there are pending motions or the court feels an issue requires immediate attention.
Further Proceedings
Most cases involve multiple court conferences designed to encourage settlement and avoid trial whenever possible.
During these conferences:
- Attorneys typically communicate with the judge
- Specific evidence can be discussed, but is generally not formally presented before trial
- Settlement discussions are prioritized
Because evidence must comply with legal rules, such as hearsay restrictions, much of it cannot be provided to the judge until trial.
Motion Practice
If either party files a motion requesting specific court action, the court will schedule a hearing date.
This process usually includes:
- Motion filing
- Opposition papers
- Reply papers
- Oral arguments or testimony, depending on the issue and the judge
Some motions are decided through attorney argument alone, while others may require witness testimony.
Compliance Conferences
The court may schedule compliance conferences to ensure:
- Deadlines are being met
- Discovery is progressing
- No additional disputes are delaying resolution
- Issues that can be resolved have been resolved
The number of conferences varies depending on the complexity of the case and judicial preferences.
Pretrial Conference
Before trial, the court will generally hold a final pretrial conference to give the parties one last opportunity to settle the matter.
Settlement Before Trial
If the parties reach an agreement, they may submit:
- A written settlement agreement
- A proposed order
This can often eliminate future court appearances, although some judges may require one final appearance to confirm that both parties understand and voluntarily accept the agreement.
Trial
If a settlement is not possible, the case proceeds to trial.
At trial:
- Both parties present admissible evidence
- Witnesses testify
- Attorneys make legal arguments
- The judge decides the unresolved issues
For many litigants, the trial is the first opportunity to directly tell their story to the judge and formally present their evidence.
Final Thoughts
While every case is unique and court procedures may vary depending on the judge and circumstances, clients who understand the general litigation process are often better prepared than those with unrealistic expectations.
Having a realistic understanding of the court process can reduce anxiety, improve decision-making, and help clients work more effectively with their attorney throughout their case.